How To Be Confident: Why All Those Article Don't Work

Hi!

I love Bloglovin, I really like to read some kind of inspiring articles. And recently I got my usual email letter with couple articles to read and there I saw the title "How to be confident". At the first moment I wanted to click on it and read as I consider myself as a person with confidence issues. But then I thought "How can this article help? Why should I read it? Did any of other articles that helped me?" And my answer was NO.

Right now as I'm getting older(I'm still pretty young and I have tons to learn about life) I start to think over my problems. Right now I'm feeling good about my life. Well, I still believe that I need to lose some weight and it will burst my confidence, and I'm well aware of the fact that it is the wrong mindset. But still, every time I lose some weight I immidiently feel way more confident.

My main idea about confidence is "If you don't like it - change it, if you can't change it - like it". I'm not sure whether I saw it somewhere or no, but I have this idea in my head for a very long time and I believe in it. I mean, I don't like the size of my body. I can change it. The fact that I don't do it because I'm lazy, it's the whole another problem. But still I can and it means that if I don't have the body of my dream I'm not working hard enough. And as soon as I start working out I instantly get this burst of positivity that makes me feel better about myself and the world around me and that's what makes me feel confident.

Right now I get to know new people, I'm getting better in my job, the weather is beautiful. The last thing I actually feel like I need to add is some daily sport and healthy eating. And that's what can make me a different person.

And I always try to be positive about people around me, I say more yes and thanks to it I actually got an expensive haircut and manicure for free :)) And when I came to that salon I was surprised with the fact that I talked to people over there, I made jokes, I asked people about different things, I talked to their boss like she was my Guru. Gosh, a year ago I would be so freaking quite and just smile in a silly way but now I feel so much more open-minded that I let people easily in my life. And that's only because I feel more confident about myself.

So my point here is that there's no universal recipe to be confident, you should find your own way to do it. You can read tons of books but until you actually start doing something nothing will change. I just work on the things that I don't like about myself and that makes me fell better about myself. Do things and you'll get there :)

I know that everybody had or still have some confidence problems, so share it in the comments, I'd love to read about it :)

So, ciao!

My Book Shelf: Shantaram

Hi!

I finished another book.

This time I picked one book that everybody used to talk about quite a while ago. One my friend recommended it to me when she knew that I was a little bit into yoga so I thought that would be soo great. Plus she was so obsessed with it so I thought it was meant for me.

You know there's a thing that every book needs a special time to read? Well, you know when you start to read something and just can't and if come back to it after maybe some events in your life you will read it from cover to cover within couple days/weeks? That's not what happened to me.

My general opinion is: it's good but there was a Wow Effect. I enjoyed it, it's a very interesting story, there's a lot of information about India and living there, but I wasn't that impressed with it as I wanted to be.

The story is about a person you escaped from the prison in Australia, went to India to hide, met new people, fell in love, became the part of the Mafia, went on war in Afganistan, returned alive, became a very important part of the Mafia. There were a lot of going on there. And that's what I liked: it is very dynamic and you usually just want to know how the situation ends. There are some parts where within two pages one very good character dies, in a page another good character dies and you're like "What the hell is going on?! Stop killing people!!" But still you are like trapped, you just want to know how it ends.

The end of the book actually disappointed me. I expected something absolutely different. It's not the fact that my idea didn't coincide with the idea of the author disappointed me, no, but the fact that what actually happened I didn't like at all. My friend promoted it as a love story, she told me even that she worried that her fiancée didn't act like the main character towards her and I was like "Well, that should be a really nice story then". But actually this "love" story isn't typical. It's not what you might think after my friend's words. It's different. Keep it in mind if you ever think of reading this.

So, my final thought: I like the story but not as much as I expected from the book that everybody rages about.

So, what are your thoughts about this book if you've read this? If you haven't how do you think would you ever read it?

So have a nice day wherever you are :)

Ciao!

Photo Post #38: Summer Sunshine in Ismailovo

Hi!
Summer in Moscow it's a very weird thing: it exists but you never know for how long.
Last week my friend and I went for a walk in the park. It was sunny and hot. Right now I'm sitting in my bedroom and I can hear the rain. It's been like 3 days like that in a row. So now we don't even know when the sun comes back...
Still we got some very sunny photos! I also try to learn my camera better so I hope I'll get to the point when I'm absolutely happy with my skills :) Also in two weeks this my friend and I are going to Saint-Petersburg(my fourth trip there) and I want to get some good photos of me too so I try to teach her how to deal with my camera :)

I hope you're having a better summer that we right now :)
Ciao!

30 Day Challenge

Almost a month ago I saw this video(link here) and it made me think: what if I really try to do it this time? I started it. 

I decided to start with something simple: Read at least 10 pages of a book every evening before I go to bed. And I did it. I write about it only now as I wanted to test it before I post. I even did my own printable to watch my progress. Feel free to take it and use if you want to :) 

I finally almost finish the book I bought when I was 13. Well, it is a little bit weird to read a book you were into when you were 13 and now you're 21, but hey, I enjoy it a lot! I also set myself a reward: buy a new book in English. Here, in Moscow it's pretty expensive to buy books in English, but I thought that after achieving such a target I can afford it :) I've already bought myself one and started reading it and I enjoy it so far :) 

I'm also in the process with two other challenges: do evening and morning workouts. I'm half way through it and already feel so much better about myself. After I finish it, I think I'll do a separate post with the workouts I've been doing :)

On my own skin I experienced that I can do whatever I want if I try to. I feel so unstoppable now :) And I shared this idea with some my friends and they are so into it and I look forward to start new challenges together with them :)

I came up with a list of challenges I want to do at some point. I find that have more than three challenges at the same time isn't as effective so I wait till I finish these 2 challenges before I start a new one. But maybe this list can inspire you to do something:

- draw a picture a day as I want to improve my drawing skills

- drink more water as it's very healthy for your body

- write a post a day as I always feel lazy to type :)

- read an article a day as I want to learn something new every day

- learn new words every day as I need to expend my vocabulary

- not to eat junk food or fast food as I eat it way too much and spend way too much money on it

- take a photo a day as I want to improve my photographie skills.

What challenges would you set for yourself?

Always try to make yourself better!

Ciao!